31 Days To Clean {Day 1: Why Clean?}

31 Days To CleanWhen I come home and the house is a mess, I feel like you don’t care about me. I feel like you don’t respect me.”

I almost fell off the chair. Here we were in a counseling session where I was throwing around all the reasons why I felt neglected and not cared for. Valid reasons. And out of the mouth of my husband come out the most humiliating words.

“What?” I asked in bewilderment.

I ran off a list of all the amazingly wonderful and difficult tasks I carried in our marriage. How dare he throw me out there like that?

I didn’t talk back to this man. I didn’t yell at him or belittle him in front of others. I was super opinionated. Yes. But disrespectful? No way.

I left from that counseling session extremely disturbed. Not only did I feel like I lost face, because of him, but  I was angry. I felt all I brought to the table wasn’t appreciated.


Understanding Each Other, Rather Than Fighting Each Other

It wasn’t long before I realized my husband continuously served me by cleaning up. I could care less. I didn’t feel loved or appreciated because he did this.

Yet the entire time, he was serving me in this way as an act of love.

I, on the other hand, wanted to talk. I was loving him by ‘talking’ to him. But guess what?

He wasn’t feeling loved or appreciated by this. It wasn’t his love language.

I learned that having a home, which is orderly and de-cluttered, brings my husband peace and joy. It makes him feel appreciated and loved.

The more I thought about this, the easier it became to change my way of thinking. I could love my husband by making the environment at home more welcoming. This extended itself to how I  could love my children as well.

A home where ‘stuff’ didn’t get in the way.

A home where ‘stuff’ didn’t take priority.

A home where ‘stuff’ wasn’t the reason for arguments.

My husband wasn’t trying to offend me with his words. He was trying to share with me what he envisioned ‘home’ to be like. And because I loved him, and because God was at work in my life, I made a choice.

I chose to learn how to manage my home well.

I chose to get up and learn how to do the tasks I was not good at.

I chose to love and respect my husband by learning to manage my home.

In her book 31 Days To Clean, Sarah Mae says, “You need to have purpose in what you’re doing, you need vision, or you will continue to stay in a rut.” And I, my friends, agree wholeheartedly.

It was my vision for a healthy and godly marriage and family that caused me to move forward. It was this pursuit that enabled me to do the mundane and monotonous tasks.

They no longer seemed trivial. There was purpose in them. In doing these things, I was learning to love my husband and children well.

Today’s Challenge (from 31 Days To Clean, Day 1: Why Clean?)


Mary Challenge: Identify specific reasons you want to make your home a haven and then complete a mission statement based on those reasons.

Here’s mine:

Making my home a haven is a priority because I want to honor God by being a Titus 2 woman, who loves her husband, loves her children, and is a keeper of the home.

I will love my family well by providing an atmosphere where God’s peace, joy, love, mercy, and grace abound. I will love them well by maintaining my home to the best of my ability in order, cleanliness, and simplicity.

Verse of quote that motivates you?

Titus 2:4-5 (NKJV)

that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, …to be homemakers…that the word of God may not be blasphemed.

Martha Challenge: Look over all of the Martha challenges in this book and make a

list of any supplies you need to get – organizing supplies, cleaning supplies, etc..

Ready to take the 31 day challenge? Then go ahead and get your copy of Sarah Mae’s e-Book, 31 Days To Clean (it’s only $4.99!). I’ve got mine already.

Then join me here on {In Pursuit} as we begin going through the daily challenges. Looking forward to seeing how we can have a Martha house, the Mary way! Because {Living Life Fully Committed} begins at home…

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Posted on April 24, 2013, in CLEANING, HOME & ORGANIZATION, HOME MANAGEMENT, ORGANIZING and tagged , , . Bookmark the permalink. 4 Comments.

  1. I actually like to clean house – although now that my “helpers” are all grown up, the house seems too big for me to keep up with. But truly – do it every single day – it makes it easier – even pleasant work.

    This is yet another way to “reverence” your husband.

    Ephesians 5:33
    Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

    • I know what you mean sage_brush. I used to think I wanted an enormous house…until I bought this one and realized how long it takes to clean. I think I will enjoy it here, with my ‘helpers’ 🙂
      I agree with ‘doing it every day’. I have a 20 Minute Challenge I do. Set that timer and go, go, go… It’s amazing what can be done in 20!

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