{Checklist for Life: Week 4- Gossip, Loose Lips}

I am so glad you are back for our Checklist for Life: for teens book club. Previously on Week 1- Self Acceptance, we spoke about the different issues that teens face regarding their self-image and we also reviewed how God sees us. On Week 2- Loss, we learned how to handle loss in our lives God’s way. And on Week 3- Cliques, we learned about the pressure of belonging and the importance of knowing our identity and position in the Body of Christ.

Feel free to go back and review and download the FREE

{Scripture Memory Verse Cards on Self Acceptance}

{Scripture Memory Verse Cards on Loss}

{Scripture Memory Cards on Gossip}

Today, we started with a quick review on last weeks’ study, then we jumped right into today’s topic: {Gossip, Loose Lips}.

The book begins with a story about a teen who is pregnant and finds herself being the talk of the town. She’s the topic of all the gossip going around and the funny thing is that no one knows the facts… isn’t that always the case? Soon enough though, we find out they are referring to Mary, the mother of Jesus.

All of a sudden the story changes. All of a sudden the gossip doesn’t seem as good. We know her story. We know about the virgin who was chosen by God to be the mother of Jesus. It’s different when the story has to do with someone else. I mean- really- why would anyone ever want to gossip about Jesus’ mother?

It can be scary as a teen to find yourself as the target of gossip or in a circle of gossip. All it takes is one simple sentence and before you know it, you are in too deep to get out. Gossip is contagious and it is also quite hurtful. Gossip begins as a “did you know…” or “have you heard…” and it almost always ends up in someones character or integrity being targeted and smeared. Nothing good can come out of gossip.

We talked about gossip, including passing along secrets and talking negatively about others, and the effects that it can have such as “destroying relationships, ruining lives, and causing emotional and psychological problems”. Even more so we talked about how this “sin of the tongue” is especially grievous to God (pg. 31).

How do we know this?

{READ} first things first… let’s check out God’s word. What does God’s word say about Gossip?

  • A talebearer reveals secrets, but he who is of a faithful spirit conceals a matter, (Proverbs 11:13 NKJV)
  • Where there is no wood, the fire goes out; and where there is no talebearer, strife ceases,         (Proverbs 26:20 NKJV)
  • He who covers a transgression seeks love, but he who repeats a matter separates friends, (Proverbs 17:9 NKJV)
  • You yourselves are to put off all these: anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy language out of your mouth, (Colossians 3:8 NKJV)
  •  Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable to you, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer, (Psalm 19:14 NRSV)
  • Don’t say anything that would hurt another person. Instead, speak only what is good so that you can give help wherever it is needed. That way, what you say will help those who hear you, (Ephesians 4:29 God’s Word)
  • A gossip goes around revealing secrets, but those who are trustworthy can keep a confidence, (Proverbs 11:13 NKJV)
  • You shall not go about as a talebearer among your people; nor shall you take a stand against the life of the neighbor: I am the Lord, (Leviticus 19:16 NKJV)
  • A perverse man sows strife, and a whisperer separates the best of friends, (Proverbs 16:28 NKJV)
  • Debate your case with your neighbor, and do not disclose the secret to another; lest he who hears it expose your shame, and your reputation be ruined, (Proverbs 25:9-10 NKJV)
  • He who goes about as a talebearer reveals secrets; therefore do not associate with one who flatters with his lips, (Proverbs 20:19 NKJV)
  • The tongue is a small thing, but what enormous damage it can do. A tiny spark can set a great forest on fire, (James 3:5 NLT

Well, as you can see, God’s word has a lot to say about Gossip. Download your FREE  {Scripture Memory Verses on Gossip} (<—–simply click link)

Here’s a tip: I cut these out and laminated them. I then bought loose leaf book rings at STAPLES (office supply store), punched a hole through them and now my kids can study the verses anytime without losing any of the scripture cards (especially helpful when reviewing while on the road).


(pg. 32 in the book)

  • ****when danger is involved like physical abuse, thoughts of suicide, threats of repeating events such as Columbine…. tell an adult
  • Do not open your mouth to talk about others
  • Do not sit around to listen to gossip
  • Prepare a script to use when friends start to gossip (“can we talk about something else?”)


Round table discussion:

  • What is gossip?
  • Have you experienced gossip?
  • Have you participated in gossip? Why?
  • How do you think God feels about gossip?
  • What effects does gossip have on people?
  • Let’s work on a script to use when friends start gossiping.

We ended the discussion with prayer. First, repentance for ever being participants of ‘gossip fests’. Secondly, we prayed that God would help us to use our mouths to bless others rather than to tear them down. We prayed that the Holy Spirit would convict us and align us to God’s word.


(pg. 33 in the book)

  • Write down the names of persons whose words have hurt you. Forgive everyone on your list and make an effort to forget what they said.


Gossip is an important topic to discuss with your children. However, I recommend that before you begin this study, you evaluate your own life. Evaluate the conversations you’ve possibly had in front of your children. Have you been one to talk about others within earshot of your children. Has gossip become a part of your daily life. Are you children used to hearing about what goes on in the lives of everyone around you?

If so, I challenge you to first take yourself to God. Allow God to shine His light into this area in your life. Read through the memory verses for this week and let God’s word soak into your heart. Repent. And then have an honest discussion about Gossip with your children. I am sure that with God’s grace and wisdom. This could be an area of great discussion and learning for your family.


Send me your comments and let me know how it went for you. I want to hear about it! And get ready for next week’s topic, {ACCEPTING OTHERS}.


Posted on October 8, 2011, in CHECKLIST FOR LIFE: BOOK STUDY, FAMILY LIFE, LIFE LESSONS, MOTHERING ON PURPOSE, PARENTING, SPIRITUAL GROWTH, TEENS and tagged , . Bookmark the permalink. 7 Comments.

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